Thank God I Had a Stroke by Barbara Gabogrecan 26.9.11

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Re: Thank God I Had a Stroke by Barbara Gabogrecan 26.9.11

Postby Barbara Gabogrecan » Tue Sep 27, 2011 4:25 pm

Brian, I am so sorry to hear of your Dad. I truly think that the carers suffer more than those who have had the stroke. I know that Peter went down hill fast - I could actually see it in his eyes and body language. Then his back went on him and he was bedridden himself. I am sure it was, in part, due to the stress of coping with what had happened to me. Our loved ones must be cherished and looked after themselves with as much love as possible. You are all 'True Gems'.

I am forever grateful that the problems I have to cope with are so minor, compared to what they could be. Of course there is aways the chance that I will have another one - though the Warfarin I am on will hopefully keep my blood under control and prevent a re-occurance. Though I must admit I freaked out a bit when I found out that Warfarin was orifinally invented to kill rats!

Thanks for taking the time to write.
Barb
Barbara Gabogrecan assists HBB's to market their business online
http://www.HomeBasedBusinessAustralia.org

Barbara is an artist specialising in silk painting; her video is on page one of You Tube http://youtu.be/1ZA9HObN_Go
http://www.SilkPaintingByGabogrecan.com/

Having survived a stroke and a brain tumour, Barbara wrote a book titled 'Thank God I Had a Stroke' to motivate and inspire others suffering from similar afflictions.
http://GabogrecanStrokeRecovery.com/
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Re: Thank God I Had a Stroke by Barbara Gabogrecan 26.9.11

Postby Marilyn Schirmer » Tue Sep 27, 2011 4:47 pm

Hi Barb, wow, what an inspiration you are. I think your book will be powerful to so many and remind people to search for the good in all situations regardless. I myself have just written a book about my life and how to help people in similar situations so I know what it's like to experience some kind of hell, and then turn it into something that can empower others. I am looking forward to being your guest expert in the past week of October and getting to help as many people as possible through your very insightful and interaction forum.
Love Maz
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Re: Thank God I Had a Stroke by Barbara Gabogrecan 26.9.11

Postby Barbara Gabogrecan » Tue Sep 27, 2011 5:19 pm

Marilyn, please let me know what your 'hell' was and what is the title of your book? Is it published yet? How will you be marketing and selling it? I, too, am looking forward to your posts on the topic of 'How to Stay Motivated' which is such an important trait to have, particularly when you are running your own home based business. I am so pleased that you think the content on this Forum is interesting; there are certainly a great number of experts sharing a wealth of knowledge with us.
Barb
Barbara Gabogrecan assists HBB's to market their business online
http://www.HomeBasedBusinessAustralia.org

Barbara is an artist specialising in silk painting; her video is on page one of You Tube http://youtu.be/1ZA9HObN_Go
http://www.SilkPaintingByGabogrecan.com/

Having survived a stroke and a brain tumour, Barbara wrote a book titled 'Thank God I Had a Stroke' to motivate and inspire others suffering from similar afflictions.
http://GabogrecanStrokeRecovery.com/
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Re: Thank God I Had a Stroke by Barbara Gabogrecan 26.9.11

Postby Barbara Gabogrecan » Wed Sep 28, 2011 8:19 am

3. Discovering the Seriousness of My Condition

I was in hospital for two weeks with Specialists visiting me daily. After I had the MRI my surgeon, Mr Balla, came to tell me just what was happening. The brain tumour was pressing on the brain stem quite severely. He could not believe that I had had no earlier symptoms. It was situated 7 centimeters inside the brain and was in a very dangerous position just to get to.

He was pretty sure it was benign, but had no idea if it would come out easily or if in fact it had attached itself to the brain stem. He kept telling me how dangerous this type of surgery is and recommended that it be taken out as soon as possible.

Both Peter and I agreed; the sooner the better. Thinking back, I am surprised that I did not feel any sense of panic or dread; in fact my approach was simply “Oh well, another operation…ho hum!” Peter was more concerned than I was, but he has told me that he never expected me to die, but was worried about what side effects it may cause e.g. paralysis of the right side which Mr Balla had warned me about. He also told me to expect to be in hospital for around 7 weeks.

I wonder now why I had no sense of fear or anxiety. Perhaps it is because I call myself a ‘realistic optimist’ – I believe the best will happen, but like to be prepared in case the worst happens. That is why I was so distraught when I discovered I could not read – I had no idea that was a possibility – I was not prepared.

I was sent home for a week to rest before surgery. During that week I had my 67th birthday. It was good to see my two lovely dogs and my 90 year old Mum could see that I was OK. While in hospital I had got an order from my website for two silk scarves. Peter had told them what happened and asked would they like their money back or would they like to wait. They wanted to wait.

So during that week at home I painted the scarves. Painting was not so hard, but I couldn’t read the names of the dyes and they look different in the bottles than they do on the silk. So Peter had to help me work out the colours I wanted. But after that, I was OK to do the painting. And the lady who ordered them was delighted with them, so that made me feel good…..I could still do what I loved (painting) with the minimum of difficulty.

It is so important when you are coping with traumatic times that you feel as though you can achieve goals and that others appreciate your efforts. If you are looking after someone who has suffered a similar challenge, help them to set goals and you will see them improve both mentally and physically. You need to be diligent with this support, especially if they are not used to setting goals and facing challenges themselves.

I needed this mental state after 7 hours of surgery. Tomorrow I will tell you all about it
Barb
Barbara Gabogrecan assists HBB's to market their business online
http://www.HomeBasedBusinessAustralia.org

Barbara is an artist specialising in silk painting; her video is on page one of You Tube http://youtu.be/1ZA9HObN_Go
http://www.SilkPaintingByGabogrecan.com/

Having survived a stroke and a brain tumour, Barbara wrote a book titled 'Thank God I Had a Stroke' to motivate and inspire others suffering from similar afflictions.
http://GabogrecanStrokeRecovery.com/
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Re: Thank God I Had a Stroke by Barbara Gabogrecan 26.9.11

Postby David de Vries » Wed Sep 28, 2011 3:33 pm

Hi Barb.

Great to see you have been able to turn an experience like this into something so positive... Many others wouldn't.

I'm looking forward to the book and know that it will help others get through their own personal challenges.
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Re: Thank God I Had a Stroke by Barbara Gabogrecan 26.9.11

Postby Barbara Gabogrecan » Wed Sep 28, 2011 5:44 pm

Thanks for your comment David. I will be letting everyone know when the book is available.
Barb
Barbara Gabogrecan assists HBB's to market their business online
http://www.HomeBasedBusinessAustralia.org

Barbara is an artist specialising in silk painting; her video is on page one of You Tube http://youtu.be/1ZA9HObN_Go
http://www.SilkPaintingByGabogrecan.com/

Having survived a stroke and a brain tumour, Barbara wrote a book titled 'Thank God I Had a Stroke' to motivate and inspire others suffering from similar afflictions.
http://GabogrecanStrokeRecovery.com/
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Re: Thank God I Had a Stroke by Barbara Gabogrecan 26.9.11

Postby Barbara Gabogrecan » Thu Sep 29, 2011 9:34 am

4. I am attacked

Before I went in for surgery, I asked Peter to shave my head. I had seen the weird look on patients with partly shaved heads and I figured that as the hair would grow back it would all be the same length and look somewhat better.

My surgeon, Mr Balla, also had his head shaved and when he came to speak to me just before surgery, he asked me “are you copying my hair style?”

I knew I had to have my head screwed into a halo brace and knew I would be on the table for some time. But poor Peter found it difficult to sit and wait without worrying for the 7 hours it took for surgery. His daughter (who is a nurse) spent about four hours with him and then one of her friends who worked as a nurse at Monash spent some time with him also.

When I was in recovery, I was vomiting constantly. This went on for four days. If I wasn’t actually vomiting I felt nauseous and could not drink or eat anything. In fact that awful nauseous lasted for four weeks. Apparently part of the brain that was bruised during surgery was the part that controlled vomitting and nausea. I was weak and losing weight because I could not eat. A spoonful of jelly or half a slice of bread and honey was about all I had to eat each day.

I had been told that the left side of my face might droop and that the right arm and leg may be affected. Well there was a slight droop, but by the time I could get to a mirror it righted itself and I never had any problems with my right side.

But what did happen was that I was totally deaf in my left ear. “That is something we didn’t expect” Mister Balla said.

But a really unexpected drama did occur. It was the day after surgery and I was being sent to have a brain scan to see if there was any fluid ‘build up’ around the brain. My bed had been pushed out to face the door to go to the scan department and the nurse was getting my records for the orderly to take with us, when a woman patient entered the room and came right up to me and leaned her arm backwards, then with all her might she ‘king hit’ me on the face.

I yelled in pain and fright (I thought she had broken my nose), nurses came running with ice, Peter nearly cried from anxiety; it was certainly a moment of trauma. The woman was taken back to her room and locked in and I was taken for my scan. It could have been so serious and I did have a headache in the front of the face, but I survived that too!

Initially I was told to be prepared to be in hospital for three months, some of which would be in a rehab centre. But by the 10th day I was able to walk unaided and shower myself so they decided I could go home. By this time Peter had his chronic back problem take over and he had not been able to visit me for three days as he could not get out of bed.

So I was sent home in an ambulance. When I arrived home the three piece safety belt was unbuckled and the part with the heavy metal clasp was put behind me. But as my bed was being taken out, one of the ambulance people caught her hand on the metal buckle section and it whipped through the air and fell with a clunk on my head.

It seemed as though as long as it was my head that hurt, I was going to be OK!

But once home I was faced with more problems which I will tell you about tomorrow.
Barb
Barbara Gabogrecan assists HBB's to market their business online
http://www.HomeBasedBusinessAustralia.org

Barbara is an artist specialising in silk painting; her video is on page one of You Tube http://youtu.be/1ZA9HObN_Go
http://www.SilkPaintingByGabogrecan.com/

Having survived a stroke and a brain tumour, Barbara wrote a book titled 'Thank God I Had a Stroke' to motivate and inspire others suffering from similar afflictions.
http://GabogrecanStrokeRecovery.com/
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Re: Thank God I Had a Stroke by Barbara Gabogrecan 26.9.11

Postby Venkat Alagiri » Thu Sep 29, 2011 2:02 pm

Wow, What an extraordinary confidence that has been nurtured by an unconditional serving attitude and a strong desire to help and give something to others. I am sure you will inspire lots of people.
I would like to meet you and other people in HBBA to have a face to face networking on a regular basis.

"Life is all about giving something to others"

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Re: Thank God I Had a Stroke by Barbara Gabogrecan 26.9.11

Postby Barbara Gabogrecan » Thu Sep 29, 2011 3:53 pm

Hi Vengat, thank you for your very kind words. Unfortunately I am not able to organise meetings, however, if another member would like to do this, I would certainly support, promote and attend (when I can). I like your quote and certainly agree with it.
Kind regards
Barb
Barbara Gabogrecan assists HBB's to market their business online
http://www.HomeBasedBusinessAustralia.org

Barbara is an artist specialising in silk painting; her video is on page one of You Tube http://youtu.be/1ZA9HObN_Go
http://www.SilkPaintingByGabogrecan.com/

Having survived a stroke and a brain tumour, Barbara wrote a book titled 'Thank God I Had a Stroke' to motivate and inspire others suffering from similar afflictions.
http://GabogrecanStrokeRecovery.com/
Barbara Gabogrecan
 
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Re: Thank God I Had a Stroke by Barbara Gabogrecan 26.9.11

Postby Debra Jarvis » Thu Sep 29, 2011 4:10 pm

Hi Barbara, we are on the cliff edge...

What happens next? Obviously it turns out okay cause here you are writing and reading to respond to our comments!!!

I talk about the pit, most of us want to go from point a (where we start) to point b (our intended destination) in a straight line, diagonally upwards, we just don't have all the skills. The pit is the experiences that skill us along the way, and often seem to be obstacles - without them we would never reach point b or decide we would rather go to point c or d and alter course to achieve our new destination. :idea:
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